Monday, February 25, 2013

Some thoughts on the Carnival Triumph



For the last couple weeks, I have found myself checking media outlets to keep myself abreast of the plight of the 4000 people who were on the Carnival Triumph. While the Coast Guard has established the cause to have been a leak in a fuel oil line, I am sure Carnival, NTSB, and authorities from The Bahamas (where the Triumph is flagged) will keep investigating the Who, What, When, and Why of the fire. Then the lawyers will come out in full force soliciting clients who were on the ship, trying to get them “their fair share” from this nasty corporation who presumably caused them mental anguish akin to post-traumatic stress disorder.

Believe me, I know the people on the Carnival Triumph had a very upsetting experience and the conditions were indescribably poor. And of course, Carnival has not helped themselves with their recent history. Apparently, this ship had some type of problems before she left the pier, sometime within the last couple of cruises. Last year, the Carnival Splendor also had an engine-room fire leave it disabled. We all still remember the Costa Concordia lying on her side just off the coast of Italy where 32 people lost their lives and another 4000 people went through a terrible nightmare. (Of course the Concordia was not a mechanical problem; it was a bad ship captain. But Costa Cruises remains a division of Carnival.) So what are we to make of this latest incident?

I would climb on a cruise ship tomorrow and take off—matter of fact, I would get on the Carnival Triumph the day she leaves the Mobile shipyard and sails back to Galveston. In life, things just happen. We can’t control everything, but we can control how we react. One of my all-time favorite quotes says just that:
The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life.



Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, than education, than money, than circumstances, than failures, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company...a church...a home.



The remarkable thing is we have a choice every day regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day....We cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude....I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% how I react to it.



— Dr. Charles Swindoll


I would hope that if I or my wife were ever in a situation like the people on the Carnival Triumph faced, we would have this attitude that Dr. Swindoll is referring to. We can’t control all the things that happen to us. I can look back on my life, take an honest review, and tell you quite frankly that 90% of the things that have happened to me were poor planning on my part and that actions I took caused the difficulties and trials in my life. My being a Christian, I know where my future lies: in the arms of Jesus. He is my Rock and my Salvation in a time of storms, and he would be with me in a situation like this.



It was very interesting to me how different people on the same ship reacted to the situation. Many of them said, “It was so terrible; I thought we were going to die.” Others said, “Well, it happened. Let’s just make the best of things.” What is the difference between these groups? That’s right, their attitudes.



I have never been to Nicaragua, but many of my Christian friends (including my stepdaughter Courtney) have been there on church mission trips. They tell me that the conditions some people live in there are similar to those described by the people on the Carnival Triumph—or worse. Poor people in Nicaragua, whole families living in the city dump, digging through the garbage for food. Back when I was in the Navy, I spent some time at Allonapo Navy Base, Philippines; the conditions were so unsanitary it made me sick the first and only time I left the base. The children would swim in a canal just outside the base where the residence of this small city would dump their sewage and household garbage. The children would swim below the footbridge leaving the base, just trying to get a sailor to throw coins down. What I’m saying is, though the people stranded on the Carnival Triumph had sewage on the floors for a few days, they should be reminded that there are people living in poverty all over this world and many here in the United States. It’s all a matter of perspective. Let’s let the investigation run its course. If someone with Carnival failed to do their job, then let them deal with that. The people who were trapped on the ship had it pretty bad—yes, they did—but I wonder, will they learn a life lesson from their ordeal? Will they come home appreciating the things in life that they have taken for granted? Or will they hire a lawyer and “get what’s going to them”?



It will be very interesting to see how this incident all works out. There is talk that Congress will be getting involved. Let’s face it: When those knuckleheads in DC start poking their noses into things, the “R” word creeps up—“regulations.” This would affect the cruise industry in a great way. The greatest majority of cruise ships are flagged under different countries, even though they sail in and out of US ports. Things are bound to get messy when one country tries to overstep the laws or procedures of a vessel based in another.



Carnival Corp. will try to pay as little compensation to the victims as they can; after all, they want to stay in business. But someone will have to pay. With the lawsuits from the Concordia still pending and now this, how much will we future cruisers have to pay for our next cruise vacation? The costs of these incidents have to come from somewhere.



I think Carnival does a pretty good job, but like most companies, they have been cutting back trying to save money. If the cutbacks somehow caused this fire, then those cutbacks will end up costing them something much more important than money: reputation. Once lost, it’s hard to gain back. Someone once told me that if you give someone great customer service, he will only tell three to five people, but if you give someone poor customer service, he will tell ten to fifteen. With 4000 people on this ship, 3000 paying passengers, the next step for Carnival is very important to their future. If Carnival doesn’t step up to the plate and make things right, then the future of CCL is bleak.



In the end, I think some new incident procedures come out of this, maybe some backup power supply improvements so the ships could still serve hot food and dispose waste when problems arise. Don’t let a few isolated incidents determine your impression of the entire cruise industry. So far none of my couples scheduled to sail on The Art of Marriage at Sea this October have voiced any extra concerns—they are all still excited! Also on the topic of exciting vacations, in just under two weeks, my wife and I are departing on our long-awaited trip to Hawaii by way of Los Angeles. Keep an eye out for future posts about our adventures there!



Rick


Thursday, February 07, 2013

The Art of Marriage at Sea: Learning to love your spouse all over again!


Just before Thanksgiving this past year, Shirley and I attended a “Weekend to Remember” marriage retreat put on by FamilyLife Ministries. I am here to tell you: Before the conference I loved Shirley very much and didn’t realize it was possible to love her deeper than I did, but I learned how much more I could love her and how I could serve her more. We both left that weekend realizing how much every married couple should attend a life-changing weekend like we had the privilege to experience. Now I have renewed my commitment to Shirley, and she really is stuck with me “till death do us part”! God worked so deeply in both of our lives and impacted us so much, we want to get that message to ALL married couples.

The institution of marriage is a sacrament of God. When we get married, we stand before a minister, our friends, and family; but most importantly, we stand before God and promise our vows to Him. How has our society gotten where divorce is so easily accepted? (I am not pointing fingers—I too am divorced. I made some mistakes that I am ashamed of. But praise God, He has forgiven me!) With the divorce rate approaching 50% of all marriages in the USA, no wonder every time you turn on the news, all you hear about is murder and mayhem all over the place. From big cities to small towns, I believe with all my heart that these problems are directly linked to the breakdown of the family. So many kids are growing up with only one parent, and most single parent households are without a father. People don’t seem to realize that the commitment to marriage is not an “agreement” that can be just walked away from. “You take your stuff, and I’ll take mine, and have a good life.” How sad that the God-given institution of marriage has become no more than a simple agreement.

Shirley and I have partnered with Intentionally Yours Ministries to put on a seminar similar to the one we attended titled “The Art of Marriage.” It is also produced by FamilyLife Ministries. This program is a DVD series with study guide that you and your spouse complete together. Normally this program is conducted over a Friday and Saturday. However, Shirley and I meet Scott and Sherri Jennings at our Weekend to Remember, and God laid on all our hearts to conduct the marriage seminar on a cruise this October. Their ministry, Intentionally Yours, is all about strengthening marriages and families by sharing their experiences and using this DVD series with these sessions:
  • Session 1: Love Happens (Purpose of Marriage)

  • Session 2: Love Fades (Drift to Isolation)

  • Session 3: Love Dances (Roles)

  • Session 4: Love Interrupted (Communication)

  • Session 5: Love Sizzles (Romance and Sex)

  • Session 6: Love Always (Legacy)

 

Don’t think this is just for couples who are newly married. Couples who have been married all their lives (Well, it may seem like that sometimes!) will also benefit. This is a great seminar for couples who have been married any length of time, and it would also be ideal for a couple about to get married. Instead of going to a church or conference room to study the DVD for a Friday night and Saturday, we are doing it on a cruise ship for one simple reason: We want to immerse you and your spouse into this program. Oh, there will be plenty of time to enjoy the cruise and the wonderful ports of call, but most importantly, there will be special time to spend with your spouse without the interruptions of our lives. A chance for the two of you to connect in a way that you never thought was possible. It’s not just a few hours in a classroom, then back home. Each day of the cruise we will spend time going through the DVDs and having discussions on the topics with real-world answers from other couples who have been through many of the issued that will be discussed. You can just sit back and take in the information, or you can actively get involved. No pressure. If you find that your situation needs more privacy, accompanying us will be trained counselors who will be willing to talk with you and pray with you.

 

As we set sail from Charleston, SC, on the beautiful Carnival Fantasy, there will be lots of time to explore both the breathtaking ship as well as the fantastic ports of Nassau and Freeport in the Bahamas, making memories you will share with each other over and over again. If you have never been on a cruise before, know that virtually everything is included: world-class food, entertainment, most activities, and lots and lots of fun. Carnival’s fleet, after all, are “The Fun Ships”! Whether you are a seasoned cruiser or new to the seas, you will enjoy the Carnival Fantasy. It is consistently rated high for service, food, and cleanliness throughout the 22 ship Carnival fleet. No passport is needed (though having one is highly recommended); all you need are a government-issued photo ID such as a driver’s license and a certified copy of your birth certificate.

 

I have to tell you, space/cabins are limited. We have a variety of cabins that will fit your budget, and payment plans are available. We have a special for reduced deposits from now until March 4, 2013; just $100 per couple secures your cabin. Here are the prices for this cruise of a lifetime:

  • Inside Stateroom: $1,050 per couple

  • Ocean View Stateroom: $1,200 per couple

  • Suites are available upon request and require a full deposit of $500 per couple.

 

For more information about the cruise itinerary, visit agapecruisetravel.com. Please, please, please do not delay in securing your spot! Staterooms are limited for this very intimate setting. I can’t wait to welcome you aboard the Fantasy October 23, 2013, and see what God has in store for each of us!

 

Rick and Shirley Trollinger


To learn more about Intentionally Yours and FamilyLife, check out the following:

 

PS: What a great anniversary or wedding present to give to someone!

Monday, January 28, 2013

The best beach town in Florida? Clearwater!

 I recently came across the following article from USA TODAY contributor Laura Bly:
What do volleyball players, a crippled but plucky dolphin named Winter and Hulk Hogan have in common?

They're all claims to fame for Clearwater Beach, the Gulf of Mexico barrier island resort community that USA TODAY Travel readers crowned the best beach town in Florida.

Readers voted online on 10 nominations submitted by "Dr. Beach" — aka Florida International University professor and coastal expert Stephen P. Leatherman. Nearly 30,000 votes were received, and Clearwater was a clear winner with more than 25% of the tally, followed by Siesta Key, Cocoa Beach and Sanibel Island.

Visit St. Petersburg/Clearwater spokesman David Downing admits to an all-out campaign for victory, from concerted appeals to the tourist bureau's 137,000 Facebook fans and 8,500 Twitter followers, to hiring a plane that trailed a "VOTE CLEARWATER AS USA TODAY'S #1 BEACH" banner over the Gulf on a postcard-perfect, 80-degree day.

The findings of this article from USA TODAY are something I have been saying since my first visit to Clearwater Beach many years ago: It’s awesome!

Next to Key West, Pier 60 at Clearwater Beach is the best place in Florida to see the sunset. In the spring and summer, Pier 60 is the place to be. Local vendors, artists, and street performers have something for everyone, from original crafts to exciting acts. And if you like to people-watch, well, grab a seat and enjoy! People gather at Pier 60 from all over, locals and tourist alike just enjoying the warm sunshine and cool ocean breezes.

There are some great places to stay. The Sheraton Sand Key Resort is my top pick. This property right on the Gulf of Mexico is well-maintained. There is an onsite restaurant serving local flavors, and it’s just a short walk or drive to many of the local attractions. Their service is great, the rooms spacious and comfortable. The nightly stay can be a bit pricy in the summer or during a very popular spring break, but in the fall some great rates are available, and you will find the fall/winter weather is very inviting. Check out Sheraton Sand Key Resort for a great stay!

From Raleigh, Clearwater Beach is about a 12 -14 hour drive but well worth the trip. With some advanced planning, you can find inexpensive flights to the Tampa Bay area. Southwest Airlines has a number of direct flights from RDU to Tampa. Other airlines such as Delta, AirTran, and US Airways fly into Tampa with stops for direct connections in Atlanta or Charlotte. Another option is to fly into Orlando; it’s a very simple one-hour drive to the Clearwater Beach area. And if you would like to make an overnight stop at Disney, SeaWorld, or Universal Studios, you might as well—you’re right there.

Central Florida is a wonderful place to spend a weeklong vacation, and Clearwater Beach is one of its hidden treasures. If you’re ready to check it out for yourself, give us a call! Agape Travel can help you make all the arrangements you need for a wonderful and memorable Florida vacation.